Becoming self vs group

This post can be quite provocative.

Individualism.

There was an interesting discussion about individualism, and groups. It consisted about people having less friends when they grow up older.

One contribution to this was point that there is no need to seek her/himself what person will be, and maybe also found a partner to live with.

This could be an interesting when thinking e.g that animals live 1-2 years with their mother before leaving to live on their own.

So in theory, as deducting one thought from those, is that we seek safety from the groups, and when being self sustainable, we are meant to live on our own instead of staying on the groups. Which means that "weakest” ones stay on groups, gather into cities instead of live on without noise, knowledge where the next door neighbour is.

Which essentially could also mean that we are meant to be more introvert than extroverts, extroverts have just evolved from the people who sought safety of others, not capable being, and surviving, on their own. This and also the places for resources such as food, minerals, material etc.

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Laws come and go; the ethics stays.

The title is a quote from Nicholas Nassim Taleb’s book. I thought it sticks quite well about the character of the persons we deal with.
The previous posting went through a liar’s sayings when we dealt with a monetary award from the job done. In war, life, business it is imperative, at least important, to be able to trust a person next to you. When a lie starts, then as old quote says:

"I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche

I once faced a situation when I was not having any identity proofing documents, but had upcoming meeting coming in a place which required me to have such to go there, according to law. I was told that it is OK to come, that papers are not normally asked at all.

I decided not to go. Felt that due my profession being based on trust, integrity, my believability is on the line.

It happend that it both increased my self-feeling, but also increased the trust people see on me, so it was also a professionally and personally worthwhile to take short term hit, for long term gain. **It takes years to build the trust, and it can be lost in seconds, if you are not having skin on the game.**